sadcancersun

lilcowgirl4:

It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is

whatwomenreallythink

ifeelyousoclosetome:

how to love yourself:

  • buy the expensive body wash your mom would never let you have
  • use a coloring book
  • watch ten episodes of a show you’ve never seen
  • go through your phone. delete the people you haven’t spoken to in years.
  • pick the petals off of a flower 
  • tell your best friend you love them
  • put a picture of baby you on your mirror 
  • you’re gonna be okay
  • i love you